The strangest thing about the J.D. Vance obsession with childless adults—the aspect that won him the monicker "weird" that has lasted so well in this election—is that it seems so arbitrary. He has wormed his way into our private lives in the role of self-appointed judgmental relative. But we are not related to him. He has decreed standards for us that he thinks we ought to live up to. But we have no idea where these standards come from—or who he even is. We are like: "Excuse me; do I know you, sir?"
There is something Kafkaesque about suddenly being condemned for failing to abide by someone else's arbitrary standards of social conformity—ones that we never agreed to honor in the first place. I was reading Ionesco's absurdist one-act play Jack, or The Submission the other night, and it captures this feeling perfectly. Jack, the central figure of the play, is hounded by relatives for a variety of mysterious and incomprehensible sins. He seems, for unclear reasons, to have let everyone down.